Dear Ladies of South Jersey and beyond, Tricia and Jacklyn McQuarrie are hosting a Special Night of Remembrance for Dr. Sandi Cleary on August 18th. Please see image below for details. Sorry gentlemen, this will be a women’s only event. Blessings.
Help and Hope for Spouses Dealing with Marital Strife
Dear Amy and Michael,
Thank you for the update on your situation. Please read this response carefully! At first what you will read might seem harsh, unbelievable, unkind, impossible, or whatever. But keep pressing into God for insight and understanding. I am writing this so that you can either read it together, or read it separately.
The first step in overcoming any kind of situation that holds me in bondage in my thoughts, mind, body and spirit is to surrender it to God. John 1:3 tells me that all things came into being by Jesus, and apart from Jesus nothing came into being that has come into being. In I Corinthians 8:6 I read:
“Yet for us there is but one God, the Father from whom are all things, and we exist for Him, and one Lord Jesus Christ by whom are all things and we exist through Him.”
The Personal Profile System is the method used to let people see for themselves what their behavioral patterns are, and how they differ from people they interact with daily. This profiling helps with career planning and is especially effective in learning what causes many relationship difficulties.
Scripture-based, interdenominational Christian counselors are confronted daily with couples who are completely confused about their roles, and how to make their marriage pleasing to each other, and to God. So many Christians have followed the ways of the world in dealing with marital difficulties, to the point of divorcing their spouses, that most Christians in marital distress no longer can stand, with confidence, on the admonition that God’s plan for marriage is “til death do we part,” and keep a firm resolve to work things out.
E – EXPECTATIONS There is no promise from God that ANYONE on this earth will do, say, or think, what I want, or think, I need them to do, say or think. There are only COMMANDMENTS from God of what I am to DO, SAY, or THINK, and PROMISES of what GOD will do in response to my obedience to His Word. When I put EXPECTATIONS on others, I put them, and myself, in bondage.
Sandi Cleary, Ph.D., CBC, LCPC-AC
Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor
N.C.C.A. License #41372150
Plaza 9, 1333 New Road, Suite 10
Northfield, NJ 08225
Telephone: 609-646-6786 – Fax: 609-641-3713
1.) Surrender your life to Jesus to be your Savior and Lord.