SPIRITUAL RENEWAL MINISTRIES provides personal counseling to help individuals, couples, and families with issues relating to relationships, career, education, finances, children, emotional distress, addictions, anger, fear, phobias, eating disorders, including anorexia and bulemia, and any life-interfering trauma. The counseling is based on the principles of God, as carried forth in the Bible, and has proved effective for all doctrinal backgrounds. Emphasis is placed on dealing with problems, not just talking about them. To facilitate this process, books, tapes, and/or homework manuals are used to reinforce Biblical principles. Serious problems are dramatically overcome by those who believe that, WITH GOD all things are possible, and NOTHING is impossible with God.

The Personal Profile System is the method used to let people see for themselves what their behavioral patterns are, and how they differ from people they interact with daily. This profiling helps with career planning and is especially effective in learning what causes many relationship difficulties.

Sandi Cleary, Ph.D., C.B.C. is a Certified Behavioral Consultant, and a Licensed Scripture-based, Clinical Christian Counselor. Sandi earned her Master's Degree in Temperament Therapy, and her Doctorate in Clinical Christian Counseling from Cornerstone University, Lake Charles, Louisiana. In addition to documenting the specific Biblical solutions to the eighteen most common counseling issues, Sandi's Applied Research Project for her doctorate, was the development and implementation of the SRM Overcomers Fellowship Program, a group interaction program that reinforces the concepts learned in the counseling process.

Sandi Cleary, Ph.D., CBC, LCPC-AC
Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor
N.C.C.A. License #41372150
Plaza 9, 1333 New Road, Suite 10
Northfield, NJ  08225
Telephone: 609-646-6786 - Fax: 609-641-3713
                                                                                                              

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1.)  Surrender your life to Jesus to be your Savior and Lord.
                    John 3:16

2.)  Be in a church and a member of that church
                    1 Corinthians 12:18

3.)  Put yourself under submission to the authority of the Pastor and church leaders.
                    Hebrews 13:17

4.)  Have an active daily devotional life that includes Bible study and prayer.
               Philippians 4:6, II Timothy 2:15, II Timothy 3:16

5.)  Be in a small group fellowship, in that church, where you are sharing with others what     God has shared with you, and where you ask others to pray for your concerns, and you can pray for their concerns.
                    Acts 2:42, I Corinthians 12:26-31

6.)  Have your spiritual gift activated in that church.
                    I Timothy 4:14, I Corinthians 14:12

7.)  Have your ministry call activated in that church.
                    Romans 12



For optimum results and to prevent return of disorder follow the treatment program, exactly
as prescribed, throughout your entire lifetime.

The Seven Dynamics Essential for Genuine Spiritual Growth © SRM/Cleary

                You may have heard it said that the Bible is a guidebook giving instructions for how to deal with every aspect of life.  This sounds so simple.  It seems impossible that one book, written centuries ago, would be able to address the complex issues of today’s society.  The problems in the 21^st Century, however, are no different from the problems that society experienced during the years the Bible was being written.

                SELF-centeredness is the core of every life-interfering difficulty.  Learning how to develop God-centeredness is what sets you free to be able to have an active, productive life, and to truly be an effective servant of the Lord Jesus Christ.

                When SELF has first priority in your life, an underlying “dis-ease” causes you to go down various paths of SELF destruction, attempting to alleviate the resulting discomfort.  Some overindulge in food, others in drugs, alcohol, or nicotine, some in sabotaging habits or thought patterns, and others in a never ending stream of unhealthy, destructive interactions with people.

                Worry, fear, anxiety, phobias, depression, financial stress, job dissatisfaction, marital strife, stress, chronic illness, are just a few of the ways lives are impacted, when overtaken by SELF-centeredness.  The Seven Dynamics listed on the other side of this prescription, are viable steps that enable genuine spiritual growth to take place, as the means of overcoming every kind of situation that can hold you in bondage in your mind, body and spirit.

                Addictive and rebellious personalities, and those suffering from never ending difficulties, have these three characteristics in common.  1.)  They resist authority.  2.)  They resist following rules.  3.)  They have a secret in their hearts that they hope no one EVER discovers.  That secret could be a crime committed, or a lie told years ago.  It could be childhood sex abuse, or feeling unloved, or unwanted.  As a result of this secret, they resort to many different thoughts, habits and indulgences to quench the uneasiness that plagues them constantly.  Fear of the truth being discovered, or of being overpowered, and/or of losing control over their lives is the reason why they resist authority.

                Following the Seven Dynamics, step by step, puts a person under subjection to authority, then into obedience to following the rules, through OBEYING God’s Word, as it is revealed though the daily study of God’s Word.  They are able to eliminate pride, which hinders genuine spiritual growth, by learning to be on an equal basis with each person God has put in their life.  Equality does not downplay leadership of specific roles entrusted to different people for the sake of order and expediency.  Genuine service to the Lord happens when the spiritual gift and the ministry call are activated in the church where the Lord has sent you.

                When you get your mind OFF of the Problem and into God’s Word, you soon learn to Submit to Authority, Assume Responsibility and have Structured Companionship, for yourself, and those who depend on you for guidance and direction, as the way to enjoy a life that brings honor and glory to God.  These dynamics activated in a person’s life, will keep life whole, healthy and vibrant.

For more information on how to get these Seven Dynamics activated in your life call:

1-609-646-6786

We now have a 128 Session Scripture-based Christian Counselor Training Program.

These sessions are on a rotating basis so you can start at any time.

Presented by:

Sandi Cleary, Ph.D., C.B.C.

Sessions are held every Monday from 10:00 AM - 12:30 PM at the miistry office:

1333 New Road, Suite 10, Northfield, NJ 08225

Starting in 2006, we plan to have the sessions available through web conferencing.

Please call 609-646-6786 for more information and to register, or contact us at minofficemail@aol.com

E – EXPECTATIONS  There is no promise from God that ANYONE on this earth will do, say, or think, what I want, or think, I need them to do, say or think.  There are only COMMANDMENTS from God of what I am to DO, SAY, or THINK, and PROMISES of what GOD will do in response to my obedience to His Word.  When I put EXPECTATIONS on others, I put them, and myself, in bondage.

I – INTOLERANCE  When others don’t live up to my Expectations, I become intolerant, consciously or subconsciously, hoping my intolerance will make them meet my expectations.

B – BITTERNESS  When being intolerant does not cause others to meet my expectations, then I become bitter, hoping my bitterness will motivate the person I have put in bondage to meet my expectations.

R – RESENTMENT  When the Bitterness doesn’t lead to the desired expectation from another, then I get filled with resentment.

U – UNFORGIVENESS  When the Resentment doesn’t work, then I become Unforgiving.      By now I have the entire Bitterness, Resentment and Unforgiveness cycle working full time in my life…all stemming from EXPECTATIONS of OTHERS that God never promised me.

I call this the EIBRUã factor because I go around with an underlying BREWING going on ALL DAY LONG.  So think of the EIBRUã factor as:

I BREW

            To break that brewing cycle, I need to start living my life to the best of my ability and reach over to the lives of others to ENHANCE their life, not pull on their life for my own personal gratification.  Pray for others, and do for others.  The paradox of interdependence is a factor here.  I ask others to help me, when I need help, but I don’t put EXPECTATIONS of help on others.  People will help me, if I don’t put them into the bondage of EXPECTATION.

            When I have a need, I ASK GOD to provide.  If I need support, or encouragement, or to have something done, I could mention it to my spouse, or to a relative, or friend.  But if I don’t get what I am seeking in a timely manner, don’t BREW, but, rather ASK GOD to provide what I am seeking, or if it is a chore to be done, start quietly doing it myself.  If I really NEED help, then the Lord will send someone to help me.  If I don’t need help, and can’t do the chore myself, it is probably because it does not really need to be done, or I have put the burden of the chore on the wrong person.  Perhaps I am attempting to have a chore done that my spouse should be doing, or arranging to have done.  Then I can quietly mention the chore, but don’t burden others, and put them, and myself, into bondage with EXPECTATIONS.

“Expectations are Premeditated Resentment”

“I am only victimized by my own consent”

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